By Patient Polyamorist
Female ejaculation is a controversial topic. Some people deny that women can ejaculate at all while others claim that those who squirt are just peeing. Those of us who have been privileged to be with someone who does ejaculate know better.
How can we get ready?
Foreplay can start early in the day – plan ahead and maximize sexual energy. Most women squirt more when they’re more turned on. Whether its psychological games, oral sex, spankings, or massage, be sure to take the time to push all her buttons.
Go to the bathroom just before playing. Stimulation of the urethra will cause a person to feel the need to pee. If she clenches up she won’t squirt much, and if she pushes too much she could accidentally poop a little. Going to the bathroom first helps both.
If she pees first and remembers not to squeeze too much, she will gush. Have towels ready if you don’t have a plastic sheet or a product designed to keep your mattress safe. Though ejaculate doesn’t usually smell or stain, it can leave a big wet spot.
What do I need to know?
Squirters need to feel comfortable in their bodies. If you’re the non-squirting partner, you will want to show your enthusiasm about her (and about squirting) frequently.
It can be difficult for a woman to achieve a squiring orgasm if she’s uncomfortable with her partner or in general. Relaxing her muscles is essential to allow you to stimulate the G-spot sufficiently freely for her to have a squirting orgasm.
Most women require rapid and intense manipulation of their g-spot in order to squirt. Remember her vagina is adapted for giving birth – it’s very difficult to break a pussy.
The better hydrated the squirter is, the more she will ejaculate and the better it will feel for her. As the urethral sponge fills with fluid, it can grow to be the size of a shell-on walnut and extend past her public bone toward the exterior of her body.
Familiarize yourself with the perineum, the elastic wall of the vagina closest to the anus. When she clenches the muscles around her vagina, the wall becomes taut, but when she relaxes (or pushes), it has well more than an inch of stretch.
Find her urethral sponge (G-spot). The most common mistake is to search too deep inside. It is on roof of the vagina, on the side closest to her belly button, about one inch inside the vaginal opening. It has a wrinkled texture, like dish-pan hands.
The “g-spot orgasm” that accompanies an ejaculation is different from a clitoral orgasm. The better hydrated and more comfortable she is, the better it will feel for her. Once they know how, some women can ejaculate from clitoral stimulation alone.
What do I do to help my partner squirt?
It is true that everyone is different, and as always, you should pay attention to your partner in case they’re giving you feedback. That said, this is one of the more universally applicable sexual techniques I have learned.
Use your shoulder and chest muscles to do the work, not your forearms. This increases your strength and stamina. Give yourself leverage by straddling her torso or sitting/kneeling alongside her north of her hips. Don’t sit between her legs.
After she is ready to go, put the ring and middle finger of your dominant hand inside her, with the pads of facing her clit. Bend your fingers to form an “L” at the knuckle closest to your hand, pressing down on her perineum with the short side of the “L”.
Your fingertips will feel her G-spot. Alternatively squeeze this spot into her pubic bone using the top one-third of your fingers and stretch the opposite wall using the short section of the “L” you made.
During your “down stroke,” push down toward her anus about one inch. During your up stroke, simultaneously pull your fingers towards the outside of her body with a come here gesture.
This stimulation needs to be rapidly alternated at a rate between 90 and 120 beats a minute. You will begin to hear a distinctive squishing sound coupled with a vacuum sucking sound – this is your hint that you’re doing it right. Her g-spot will swell.
As she gets close to orgasm, she may start to clench on your fingers with her vagina. If she does this, remind her to relax or even push. She may complain of a sensation of needing to pee – you may need to remind her that she just peed minutes ago.
If she was turned on and hydrated when you started, and can relax and let go, she should gush 1-6 ounces of fluid with continued stimulation of 3-5 minutes. She should be able to squirt again just minutes later.